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LOVE IS...

“Love is wanting the absolute best for someone even if it doesn't benefit you.”
-Shawntika White
For most of my life I have been surrounded by hurting people. I mean, truly bitter people. People who have been so hurt that they've only been capable of hurting others. Somewhere along the line I became a mirror of them. I've never been in any type of relationship with anyone that was generally and genuinely happy. That is until recently. I’m not sure what changed but somewhere along the line God began placing joyful people around me and I began to want what they had. So I did research. I read books, took notes, and finally sat down to put it all together in as few words as possible.
I've allowed my experience to overshadow God’s purpose for humanity. We were created with fellowship in mind. Fellowship with God and with one another. The hurt and pain that others had inflicted on me caused me to interpret love negatively. Well, my interpretation was filled with false information.
Here’s the key, the “love” that I was steering clear of was actually NOT LOVE at all. It was a culmination of the actions that the hurt and bitter people in my circle had released from their spirits to mine. I was running from being hurt again yet I perceived that I was running from love. But that wasn't love. Love does not sigh and groan at the idea of showing love. Love does not control. Love does not betray. And love does not hurt. Most of all, love keeps no record of wrong.


“Love is being there with a cheerful heart  even when it inconveniences you. Caring for someone in need who may never return the favor.”
I don’t necessarily have any pearls of wisdom to shake the foundation for earth in all that is love. All that I have learned is to consider truth before experience. I was taught about love from those who only experienced pain and anger in love. It is by the grace of God that others have come in my life who were taught the true meaning of love. Their 1 Corinthians 13 love is what has guided a turnaround for me. To those friends, I say thank you. Life hasn't been the same since.
So remember:
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”

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