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The Defining Year

The last 12 months of my life have been ridiculously overwhelming in every single way possible. I have had 4 mailing addresses in less than 6 months and that alone almost took everything out of me. I even lost friends who promised they’d always be there. So how am I supposed to categorize this year? Should it be the year from hell? Although at times I have called it that, NO! This is “The Defining Year.” God used a year of tragedy for triumph. Everything that was meant for evil was used for my good. In celebration of my 25th birthday I have recorded 25 things that 2014 taught me.
25. Self reliance is the key to a full life.
24. Nothing is ever REALLY THAT BAD.
23. Let time decide the role others play in your life.

22. When in doubt, where pants. Length matters.
21. Be honest with yourself.
20. Love is honest. Lust lies. If it’s real love, honesty comes with it.
19. God gives you everything you need to succeed. He won’t send you where he hasn’t already made a way.
18. God said he will never put more on you than you can bear. He cannot lie.

17. Love covers a multitude of sin.
16. Forgive others. Forgive yourself.
15. Vulnerability does not mean weakness.
14. Everything can change in a matter of moments. Cherish the every moment.
13. You teach people how to treat you by what you allow.
12. Never ignore the character of a person. It’s exactly who they are.
11. Words are things.
10. Be kind to others even when they are not kind to you. It will confuse them!
09. Isolation never helped anyone. You find God through solitude, not isolation.
08. Be gentle with yourself.
07. They won’t remember what you said but what you did.
06. Never let anyone take you on a trip you don’t want to go on.
05. Exercise your filter!
04. Don’t buy friends. If they have a price tag then...well...they aren’t worth purchasing.
03. If you love life, it will love you back.
02. You’ll get out of your dreams what you put into them.
01. Never let Satan turn your gifts into a curse.

And as a bonus: God will never leave or forsake you. I am living proof that He is the only one that will consistently be there no matter what. He will never let you down. You can put every single one of your eggs in that basket.

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